Last year, my ex-boyfriend got a new girlfriend.
And, even though I had initiated the breakup long before for a bunch of good reasons, this hit me in a very unexpected way.
I was suddenly confronted with some intense emotions, including jealousy, anger and sadness.
And I’m usually a pretty calm and kind human being.
But, in those moments, I felt like a seething dragon that could have destroyed entire cities.
This experience has taught me some valuable lessons about the art of letting go:
The only way out is through.
Meaning: you need to allow yourself to truly feel unpleasant feelings such as the above so you can let them go.
Just calling yourself ‘spiritual’ and pretending you don’t have them, isn’t gonna get you very far.
You can only let go when you are ready to.
Meaning: you can’t force these things.
So your best bet is to sit with your feelings for however long it takes.
The more you allow for them to be, the quicker you’ll be able to release them.
Sandra Weber once said in her (German) THEKI podcast something along the lines of
“You cannot open yourself up for something new if your fists are tightly clenched, holding onto something else.”
And boy, were my fists tightly clenched at that time – even though, I thought I had opened them long before.
But then, after many tears and several days of punching pillows and listening to The Killers (my go-to for scenarios such as the above) – essentially allowing myself to just feel and be, without the need to change or fix anything – I came to the following realisation:
It was time to let go.
To open those fists again.
To pass the proverbial baton.
Because my job here was done. Our time together had come to an end, and it was time for our souls to embark on new learning journeys with other people.
Or, to say it in the words of White Camel from my The Return of the White Animals oracle deck:
“By letting go of what was, you open the door to what can be.
Look at your past with loving eyes, and acknowledge that whatever you or others did or did not do was the best you were capable of doing then. Set yourself and everyone else free by attuning to the frequency of unconditional love and forgiveness.”
Do you need help with letting go of something? Then White Camel and the other animals from The Return of the White Animals oracle are here for your moral support.
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Love,
Katharina and the White Animals
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